For reverts
Marriage as a revert Muslim in the UK
Common challenges for reverts
Reverts tell us the same things come up again and again when they start looking for marriage:
- No Muslim father or male relative to act as wali.
- Non-Muslim parents who are unsure about an Islamic marriage.
- Some families who put culture or ethnicity ahead of deen.
- Not knowing which questions to ask, or what is normal, in an Islamic courtship.
- People who try to rush a revert into a quick or secret nikah.
Finding a wali
Most schools of Islamic law require a wali for the bride. If you have no Muslim male relatives, many scholars allow an imam or a trustworthy Muslim man from your community to take on the role. A local mosque is usually the best place to ask.
Once you have someone, invite them from the Chaperone / Wali screen in the app. They can receive copies of the messages you send, so you are never talking to someone without support. Read more about the role of the wali.
Staying safe
- Be wary of anyone who wants a quick nikah without your wali or family, or asks you to keep it secret.
- Never send money to someone you have met online.
- Meet in public, with your wali or a trusted friend, until you know the person and their family.
- Make sure your marriage is legally registered so you have rights under UK law.
More advice in our safety centre and nikah guide. You may also find the page on White British revert marriage useful.
Questions from reverts
I am a revert sister with no Muslim family. Who can be my wali?
Many scholars allow an imam or another trustworthy Muslim man to act as wali when a woman has no Muslim male relatives. Ask the imam at your local mosque, or a scholar you trust, about your situation. You can then invite them as your wali in the app.
Do I have to tell my non-Muslim family?
That is your decision, but many reverts find it helps to involve parents early, even if they are not Muslim. They can still meet the person you are considering and support you, and a secret marriage leaves you with no one looking out for you.
Will people from born-Muslim families consider a revert?
Many will. You can mention that you are a revert on your profile, and members can choose to show or hide reverts using filters, so you are more likely to meet people who are open to it.
Is an Islamic nikah enough on its own?
Not in UK law. A nikah at a venue that is not registered for marriages is not a legal marriage, so you also need a civil ceremony or registration. Our nikah guide explains the steps.
Start your search
Create a free profile, say you are a revert if you wish, and invite your wali when you are ready.